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‘He was infatuated with her’: My brother had a drinking problem, was depressed and took his own life. He left $6 million to his former girlfriend who bought him alcohol

Last September, my older brother took his personal life after residing with despair. My brother misused alcohol as nicely. I moved away in my mid 20’s, which allowed me to develop and study and be an grownup. My brother actually had no actual life expertise.

Over the years he was coddled by our adoptive, loving mother and father. They did what they thought finest, however in the long run, it hindered him as he allow them to deal with him till my mom handed in October 2017, after which my father in December 2020.

During our mother and father’ later years, they stop touring to deal with my brother, who would drink alcohol and fall. They have been afraid they’d come dwelling and discover him useless. So they stopped seeing my household and I as typically as they’d have preferred.

His former girlfriend visited my mother and father

As my mother and father grew older, a former girlfriend of my brother go to my mother and father, and helped them with errands. My brother was infatuated together with her, and obsessive about getting again together with her. She would say no, however it was at all times on his thoughts.

After my dad handed, a buddy known as the police to do a welfare test on my brother. He was out chilly. The physician instructed him that he wanted to vary his methods or he could be useless in six months. I found his feminine buddy purchased him vodka.

At the top of September, he took his personal life. His former girlfriend inherited every part — a seven-figure property. She instructed me that he talked many occasions about suicide. I might have eliminated the weapons from the home had I identified he owned any.

He taught her methods to commerce shares

She additionally mentioned that he talked to her about shares, and confirmed her methods to commerce. I think she knew the worth of his property. In a letter written in May 2021, he mentioned I ought to get the household dwelling, and a portion of his giant checking account.

Unfortunately, my brother didn’t perceive that this notice isn’t authorized or binding, as there have been no witnesses to it. I requested for my father’s portion of the property, which provides as much as $2 million out of just about $6 million. I’m keen to take $1.5 million.

I think there was another intent right here — that she performed the lengthy sport. She’s been very hesitant about giving me something. She mentioned she may honor my mother and father by not “blowing it.” I mentioned, “You could honor them by giving me what I ask for.”

Should I convey this to the eye of the police? They nonetheless have his suicide notes — he left round a dozen round the home. It’s actually a “he said/she said” state of affairs and I’ve no proof that she stored something from me. Could I probably sue for negligence?

A Grieving and Confused Brother

Dear Grieving and Confused,

I’m sorry. I’m sorry that your brother had such a tough life. I’m sorry that he tried so exhausting to get sober, and fell off the wagon. And I’m sorry that he thought there was no method out, and took his life — particularly in such a fashion. His world bought smaller, and he felt his choices have been restricted. He invited this former girlfriend into his life, and she or he could or could not have offered him with the companionship that he wanted and/or enabled his ingesting. We will most likely actually know.

For your brother’s will to be legitimate, it have to be signed by two witnesses in most states and they need to not stand to inherit something from the property. The regulation varies from state to state. Generally, a will could be contested on one in all three grounds: lack of testamentary capability, undue affect from a 3rd occasion, and improper execution. The latter is usually the simplest and most typical method a will is contested and/or overturned. But you could have grounds on the primary two.

It would be near-impossible to draw a straight line between your brother’s fragile mental health, his relationship with alcohol and his former girlfriend’s intentions.

Contesting the need would doubtless be costly, and be an ordeal for you and, after all, his former girlfriend. The statute of limitations for contesting a will varies from state to state, so in case you want to take this street, you must discuss to your lawyer, and achieve this with out losing any time. When your lawyer has all the main points, she or he will advise you of the probability of succeeding in a case, and whether or not it’s price pursuing. The sum of cash concerned is clearly very giant.

Proving that your late brother’s buddy in some way contributed to his demise could be the next mountain to climb, nonetheless. Just as a result of she was conscious of the dimensions of his fortune doesn’t imply that she sought to hasten the top of his life, or pushed him to drink himself into a spot the place he may now not discover the hope to stay. It could be near-impossible to attract a straight line between your brother’s fragile psychological health, his relationship with alcohol and her function in his life.

We by no means actually know for certain what goes inside one other individual’s dwelling and/or what transpires between two folks. If she did purchase him vodka, figuring out that he had a significant issue with it, it clearly an irresponsible, even reckless, resolution. But they could have been enabling one another. Ascribing motives to her is tempting, however it’s a slippery slope for you as you grieve his demise: She turns into the villain and he without end turns into the sufferer. I do know he deserves higher than being lowered to that.

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